Monday, March 27, 2006

The Altruistic Nurturer--the Home Maker

People who are doing well in life are generally measured by the following criteria ie independent, successful at work, educated, professional, and self-sufficient. These are the standards whereby we measure "success" and people with these characteristics are what we regard as "intelligent" as opposed to "uneducated."

However, careful analysis reveals that the woman of the house fulfills the following roles :
  • She has to be a wife to her husband.
  • She has to be a mother to her children.
  • She is a daughter to her father, who is earliest to reach out if something happens to her father.
  • She is a teacher, teaching her children between right and wrong.
  • She is a tutor, assisting with homework.
  • She is a psychologist, using her intellect in daily struggles with husband and children.
  • She is a counselor, counseling the children when a bully hits them.
  • She is an accountant, budgeting the household expenses.
  • She is a chef, preparing the meals.
  • She is a tailor, restoring clothes.
  • She is a driver, ferrying the kids to and from school.
  • She is a buyer and store clerk, ensuring that all basic necessities are in the house.
  • She is a switchboard operator, answering the phone.
  • She is a receptionist, answering the door and receiving guests and visitors.
  • She is a waitress, feeding everyone at mealtime before she feeds herself.
  • And most important if the family is faced by some financial calamity, she too is the one who goes out to earn some money to make ends meet and still also does all the above.
Considering the above multi-faceted roles of women as wives & mothers & sisters in society, it really surprises me when a woman is asked what job she has, and her archetypal reply is "Oh, I don't work. I just sit at home. I'm a housewife."
Housewife indeed! This "housewife" is actually the CEO, the general manager of the house. She ensures that everything runs efficiently & on time. She is one person who does things selflessly placing her family members needs before hers all the time.
She is infact the Home Maker.

On the few occasions when things do not go as expected, she is liable to be blamed by accusing that she didn’t take care of their house, she could not keep the family together, she’s being irresponsible etc etc.

But how often have we informed these same altruistic women about the times when things do go well?
How often do we give compliments?
Do we counsel gently and encourage wisely?
or do we take it for granted and assume that "there is no point talking to her ? after all she is just a woman and expected to do everything."

Tuesday, March 14, 2006

It keeps me going….

Sometime ago I faced some of the most turbulent times of my life. I couldn't believe that this was my life and it would take such a shape!! Oh…life changed so drastically and I couldn't recognize it myself. I've always been very meticulous and well planned, as I kind of don’t like unwelcomed turn of events. But life had surprises for me that I had to accept and there was no turning back. So when I faced some calamities, most of the principles that I use to proudly claim to stand by were put to test. Am glad to say that I passed with flying colors. It was hard though!

I explained to myself that problems were necessary to help me become stronger and stronger, and to grow. Life is nothing but the process of growing from what we are to what we have to become. So whatever I had to endure was for a purpose and a good one at that. Taught me some new values and made me think hard about my actions.
Now that the phase is behind me I kind of know some of the anwers as to why it happend to me and there was a reason. And today am content and life couldn't be better.

My friends tell me that I passed through the entire worst phase with my dignity intact. Of course I thank them for their support and the unconditional love of my parents. When I was young I always fanaticized life would be so and so...and normal. Bad things cant happen to me. How innocent I was or is it naive!! But little did I realize that someday I'd have to face it myself and nature would put me to the grind as well.
Well no matter what, I had faith and that’s what kept me going. I had faith that things would change for the better. It had to. To have faith when faith is possible is not really faith. Faith is the ability to believe in the impossible. It is faith, which makes the impossible possible. It keeps me going….
It keeps me going….

Monday, March 13, 2006

Relationship Karma

To my love, with all my love

I definitely believe that ‘relationship karma’ operates in all our relationships and begins in each life with childhood family interactions. And from there on we learn the basic functions of relationships.

Soul groups or soul mates are people we instantly feel familiar with, and we have this unique sense of connection stemming from a previous life or lives either in a positive or negative setting. Sometimes when we meet someone we feel a deep sense of connection already, that cant be explained. But its there and the feeling just wont go away. When we are in love and found a perfect partner, we feel that we know this person from years, though we may have just met. Soulmates are two people who are extremely compatible on most levels. The connection is usually extensive, spanning several lives and for the most part positive. These experiences and connections happen to provide opportunities to develop the qualities and characteristics we are most in need of.

I would like to site my own experience with it. When I met my love I felt I knew him from many years, we had so much in common and he understood me so well. We instantaneously bonded on so many levels and I felt that he knew things about me that I never mentioned to him. I sensed that he was the missing link in my life and his presence made me feel absolute, just wonderful. The distinctive part was that when we spoke about our childhood to each other or specific phases of our teenage years, we had more or less encountered the same experiences at different places with different set of people. There were amazing coincidences in our separate encounters to a particular situation, shared the same feelings and there were just no explanations!!

Our soul mates or groups have generally shared many experiences with us and know us well. All these contacts and relationships are usually intensely emotional, and some of them can conjure up strong feelings either positive or negative all for a purpose. All is for a growth, development and evolution.

lots of taught me how to love, your love.

Source: Michael Millet

Friday, March 10, 2006

Love my job feels so wonderful when one gets a good job that one is looking out for since quite sometime. After years of patience to build the required work experience, it finally happens.

I love my new job and so far I can safely say its the best phase of my life.Touchwood! Everything at work is perfect to the T. My job requires me to meet several people all day long for different projects and the best part is am involved in crucial decision making process, that very often provides many others to thus get recruited in my company. And that makes me feel so satisfied.
I am loving it.

So am going to enjoy my weekend and you all enjoy it too:) )